LITTLE BACKPOCKET GUIDE TO
Kink & Consent
The world of kink and BDSM offers loads of ways to deepen the physical and emotional elements of sex, whether through restrictive ropework, sensual flogging or orgasmic denial.
Like with other activities that bring us pleasure, there can be some risk involved, but when explored with the right level of preparation, care, and knowledge, they can lead to some amazing experiences.
This guide is for anyone new to BDSM and kink, and for anyone who would like to learn more about how to navigate consent and play as safely as possible when playing.
It contains an outline of how to talk with your play partner/s about limits and desires, and also shows how to get involved in a few specific kinks with mutual pleasure and harm reduction in mind: Ropeplay and Bondage, Impact Play and Breath Control. It also covers the importance of aftercare, with some ideas on how you can bring this into your scene.
✺ The Love Tank CIC acknowledges the community experts and BDSM practitioners that informed this booklet. Thank you to the queer people who helped to create this booklet, and to the kink community who pushed for it to be produced.
Resources
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Social Networks
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Podcasts
✺ Off The Cuffs - Kink and BDSM-focused podcast, with a different guest each week.
✺ Watts The Safeword - Youtube channel and podcast, focused on sex and kink education, presented by two veteran kinksters on the scene.
✺ The Bed Post - Kink-friendly podcast focused on sex, sexuality and sex work.
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Blogs and Resources
✺ A Kinky Autistic - Blog and resource for kinksters from an autistic perspective.
✺ Kynk 101 - Excellent resource with risk mitigation tips for a wide variety of kinks.
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Venues and Events
✺ Anatomie Studio - Shibari (Japanese rope bondage) studio based in London. Educational space that runs both workshops and demonstrations. All genders welcome.
✺ Torture Garden - Monthly London event, and the world’s largest regular fetish and body art club. All genders welcome.
✺ The Underground Club @ Central Station - Runs a wide variety of kink and fetish events for GBMSM, which tend to run earlier in the evening.
✺ Club Labrys - BDSM fetish sex party for lesbian, bi, and trans women, as well as other women who have sex with other women.
✺ Eagle Manchester - Manchester-based bar that holds a range of fetish events, dominantly for GBMSM.
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General Sexual Health
✺ Ready For It - Kinkster-oriented guide to vaccines and immunisation against several STIs.
✺ Prepster - Online resource on all things PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) related, including information on how to access and use PrEP as part of your own sexual health regime.
✺ Queers Beyond Borders - Resource for queer migrants moving to or across Europe, including details on housing, asylum, healthcare, sex and connections, and mental health support for several major cities.
✺ Queer Health - The Love Tank’s collection of sexual health and wellbeing resources, including information on safer chillouts, DoxyPEP, STIs, and safer steroid use.
Credits
RESEARCHED, WRITTEN, AND PUBLISHED BY
The Love Tank CIC, London, UK
TEXT BY
Qaisar Siddiqui
ILLUSTRATIONS BY
@FetishDoodles
DESIGN BY
Richard Kahwagi
TEXT IN CONSULTATION WITH
BLKaiser, PhantomBondage,
and MikoPrints
This guide is the result of conversations and workshops from our Love Hub series, and from the lived experience of team members involved in the kink scene.